I missed you too, Journal. Sorry, just didn’t get time to come to you. So, today in the metro I heard a girl say something that made me smirk big time. She said though she isn’t much interested in cooking, she is thinking of joining a cooking course, because like or no, a girl should know cooking, as told by her mother.
We say we are progressing, but I wonder how? One boasts of their daughter’s education but cooking is a must criterion while searching for a suitable daughter-in-law.
Why doesn’t a girl have the freedom to say boldly that yes I do not like cooking! Simple. Why is this so difficult to understand and accept?
Why do we attach tags like cooking, fair, traditional, a homemaker with only a girl? If we harp on equality then these parameters should be associated with men too!
My thoughts were soon interrupted by someone muttering. This female behind me was talking about not being able to work anymore as she has a kid to attend to. Though she said she was confident enough to manage her work and her child, her family thinks otherwise.
Wow, another incident of patriarchy!
After Avni, I know the importance of a mother in the upbringing of a child. But, I also know the importance of losing oneself, very easily I must add, while being a mother and wife. You knew, even before Neel, how close I was to losing myself.
The helplessness in the lady’s voice made me wonder about the asinine mindset of people in our culture. Again, I ask. Why can’t a woman just be herself? Why can’t she speak for herself and be heard too?
If she says she can manage, means she can. Simple. Again.
Engrossed in my musings I realized the burning situation next to me pretty late. A lady was threatening someone on a call. She looked newly married as she still wore chuda and perhaps was talking to her husband. And boy, she was outraged. Without raising her voice even for a moment she made sure that her temper reached the person.
She sounded so confident, so determined to give it back to her husband.
We sat together for only 10 mins, so I don’t know the story. But, what I liked is she knew what she was saying. She made it extremely clear that no man can ruin her life.
I still remember her words- ‘Mr. Rathore! How dare you think you can spoil my life. You will have to pay for what you did.’
I may be wrong too for there can be a possibility that the man is not wrong. Yet, I’d say that I loved this lady’s determination. The fire in her eyes.
That’s what every woman needs. The courage to stand for yourself; The will to #BeYou. To Say what you want, Do what you wish, Achieve what you desire. To Speak up for yourself.
Don’t lose yourself for someone else.
Don’t give up on you so easily.
Asmi heard only three ladies. But there are many women around us who give in to the societal norms. This is the problem. By not speaking up initially you set a standard and later when you put forward an opinion it comes out as an argument. Speak up for yourself from the first day. Stand for yourself.
Nurture your dreams. Never let anyone tell you otherwise. You are a woman. If you can carry a child for nine months and then give birth. You Can Do Anything. #BeYou. Believe in You!
Written as a part of #BlogchatterA2Z challenge.