I am sailing into multiple boats currently, so the question for this week’s #ChatterPrompts by Blogchatter, i.e. A gift I’d give myself can sway between many choices. Dedicated time for reading, some Me Time every day, a vacation, the sense for better time management or sleeping soundly for a good number of hours are only a few from the long list of gifts I would wish for myself. But, there is something more important which I want to gift myself.
Let me tell you an incident from my life.
I got engaged in 2010, the ‘Rishta Way’. However, from the day I met the guy to the day I got engaged and every day in my two month courtship period, there was not a single day when I didn’t feel trapped, lonely, and pushing aside the urge to die.
My mind repeatedly hammered me with the thought that whatever is happening is not right. And, I decided to stand up for myself. For my future.
My parents have always taught us to be bold and voice our opinions. And so, I told them that I want to break the engagement. Seven years back engagement breakups or divorces were still a stigma in our Indian society. Indubitably my decision wasn’t taken well.
I was charged with numerous allegations to the extent that I have no value for my parents’ respect and that they were ashamed of the upbringing they gave me.
But, I stood firmly on my decision. And every day after the breakup till today I feel proud of myself and my decision.
A Gift To Myself #ChatterPrompts
I hope that I always have the strength to stand for myself and for what is right, like I did in the past, today and always.
Being a woman I strongly feel for #WomenEmpowerment and the need to stand up for crimes against women. I wish to have the courage to stand against everything small in my family too, whether it is for my right to work after kids or sending my child to a daycare to attend a work-related event. Because if I can’t #speakup in my family, I can’t make people trust me to be able to help them.
Although it is more difficult to face one’s family than strangers, if I can’t stand up for myself I can’t stand for anyone else.
The gift I want to give myself today and always is COURAGE.
My daughter will learn what she sees and I will work towards setting an example for her and her sibling, whoever it will be.
Given the current times when women are treated like VAGINA ONLY, it is imperative that my children too have the courage to stand for themselves and those in need in the future.
This post is written as a part of #chatterprompts by Blogchatter
Also linking it with Lifethroughmybioscope #QuotedStories