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A Gift I’d Give Myself #ChatterPrompts

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I am sailing into multiple boats currently, so the question for this week’s #ChatterPrompts by Blogchatter, i.e. A gift I’d give myself can sway between many choices. Dedicated time for reading, some Me Time every day, a vacation, the sense for better time management or sleeping soundly for a good number of hours are only a few from the long list of gifts I would wish for myself. But, there is something more important which I want to gift myself.

Let me tell you an incident from my life.

I got engaged in 2010, the ‘Rishta Way’. However, from the day I met the guy to the day I got engaged and every day in my two month courtship period, there was not a single day when I didn’t feel trapped, lonely, and pushing aside the urge to die.

My mind repeatedly hammered me with the thought that whatever is happening is not right. And, I decided to stand up for myself. For my future.

My parents have always taught us to be bold and voice our opinions. And so, I told them that I want to break the engagement. Seven years back engagement breakups or divorces were still a stigma in our Indian society. Indubitably my decision wasn’t taken well.

I was charged with numerous allegations to the extent that I have no value for my parents’ respect and that they were ashamed of the upbringing they gave me.

But, I stood firmly on my decision. And every day after the breakup till today I feel proud of myself and my decision.

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I hope that I always have the strength to stand for myself and for what is right, like I did in the past, today and always.

 

Being a woman I strongly feel for #WomenEmpowerment and the need to stand up for crimes against women. I wish to have the courage to stand against everything small in my family too, whether it is for my right to work after kids or sending my child to a daycare to attend a work-related event. Because if I can’t #speakup in my family, I can’t make people trust me to be able to help them. 

Although it is more difficult to face one’s family than strangers, if I can’t stand up for myself I can’t stand for anyone else.

The gift I want to give myself today and always is COURAGE.

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My daughter will learn what she sees and I will work towards setting an example for her and her sibling, whoever it will be. 

Given the current times when women are treated like VAGINA ONLY, it is imperative that my children too have the courage to stand for themselves and those in need in the future.

 

This post is written as a part of #chatterprompts by Blogchatter

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Also linking it with Lifethroughmybioscope #QuotedStories

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Author: rashi mital

A mother and a travel enthusiast, I love speed and am proud of my driving skills. In my free time I love reading, writing, and sometimes doing nothing. I try to live every moment and believe in living young despite the age.

13 Comments on “A Gift I’d Give Myself #ChatterPrompts

    1. That’s right, Monika. Courage is needed to stand for oneself. Because though we are in modern society, females are still pushed and pulled down by strangers and family alike. Glad you agree with me. Thanks for dropping by. 🙂

    1. It was a terrible time, but I was sure of my decision. Thanks for stopping by, Medha. People like you give the community that much-needed courage. 🙂

  1. You are right Rashi, We need the courage to stand up for ourselves. Only then we can expect others to support us.
    But yes its difficult to stand up against one’s own people but if the situation calls for, we should for our own better future and the sanity of others. Thanks for linking up with #QuotedStories.

    1. Oh yes, Upasna. It’s extremely difficult to stand for one’s own people. Because we are judged mostly by our own. But, it’s true that times call for every woman or a man to stand for themselves, to take charge and bring the change. M glad to link up with #QoutedStories this time, finally. 🙂

    1. I agree, Anamika. I have been in a situation where I had to stand against my own parents (my post on the same- It’s All In The Planets) and even now after marriage, I keep the foot down against many things. And yes, it is definitely not at all easy. For I was and am charged with numerous allegations but I kept my stand. Thanks so much for stopping by 🙂

    1. I loved your comment Kala Shree. I hope each and every woman feels this way. Today, we cannot let ourselves getting dominated. We have to stand for ourselves.
      Thanks for reading and this beautiful comment, esp in hindi. 🙂

  2. Being a quiet person and someone who generally avoids conflicts and confrontations, I always found it difficult to stand up for myself, my views.. But after becoming a mom, its almost as if there was a switch that turned on, especially when it came to matters of bringing them up.. I can proudly say I am much more courageous and I hope I can continue the same always

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